You Simply Can’t … So, Let It Come, Let It Hurt & Let It Heal

Isn’t strange how we spend so much of our time in our head (thinking, analysing) and we completely forget how to FEEL?

 

CORRECTION! We are SCARED to FEEL! We’ll do anything to AVOID emotional PAIN and go to great lengths not to feel. Instead, we choose to run or numb (or both) and turn to the usual ‘weapons of mass destruction’ (list below) to ESCAPE rather than feel our feelings.

 

Why!? Because those feelings are uncomfortable, painful even and so we distract ourselves instead. Some decide to ‘check out’ altogether. Escapism takes many forms… but guess what?

 

You Will Never Get What You Truly Want By Running or Numbing!
 

Will you FORGIVE ME if I ask you some triggering questions?

 

What Are You Scared To Feel?... What Pain Do You Run From?... And WHY?
Hold that in mind while I share an uncomfortable truth – and that is: 

YOU SIMPLY CAN’T!

You can’t eat it away

You can’t drink it away

You can’t smoke it away

You can’t work it away

You can’t shop it away

You can’t party it away

You can’t f**ck it away

You can’t gamble it away

You can’t medicate it away

You can’t even ayahuasca it away…

 

Want Real Freedom? Heal The Hurting Parts Of You, First!

 

That’s exactly where your feelings come in. They are important messages from your soul and each one contains a lesson or a gift. And it’s up to you to find it! You may have come across this quote:

 

‘Hurt People Hurt People’

This is so true because if you don't heal what hurt you, you'll continue to bleed on people who never cut you.

 

Time Does Not Heal Anything… You Have To Do The Healing!  

And true healing is becoming whole and integrating all the parts of you that you’ve rejected or tried to run away from. It’s REMEMBERING who you are at your core and coming back to your authentic self. Healing the emotional side of you is intense… and so it takes COURAGE! Why? Because what you most want to find tends to hide where you least want to look. BUT if you’re willing to face the darkness and SIT with the PAIN, you will find the brightest light and your way home.

 

Your Pain Is A Gift In Disguise + And An Invite… To Rise, Heal & Evolve

The emotional pain you supress carries with it the potential to SET YOU FREE! The problem is that nowadays, many people lack RESILIENCE... not realising that resilience is absolutely essential for healing… as well as success! And you can build it by facing your pain head on with courage. Doing so will not only shape your character but also help you cultivate greatness. So when life delivers hard times, heartbreak and pain, don’t run… embrace them instead. I think it was Robin Sharma that said (and I quote):

 

‘The greatest people on the planet have suffered the most. I suggest that suffering is awesome. The ego runs from suffering because it’s the death of the ego... but I believe pain, difficult times, failure, loss are purification and preparation for personal heroism’.

 

BOOM, right!? You see…

 

It All Depends On WHAT You DO With Your Pain!

You can run from the pain and allow it to direct the rest of your life without you even knowing OR you can run towards it, (or at least not resist it), face it, sit with it + transform it into something beautiful. Because, while it may not feel like it at the time, the pain is a ‘gift in disguise’ and this gift (when fully embraced) has the power to set you free. So:

 

Let It Come, Let It Hurt… & Let It Heal!
Emotional pain will travel through families until someone is brave enough to feel it - we always repeat what we don’t repair. The battles you refuse to fight your children will have to fight. So, stop pretending it didn’t happen, stop ignoring what is asking to be felt and healed.

 

Everything in your life will change when you STOP running from what is asking to be felt.
Listen, everyone is talking about trauma these days but please hear me when I say this:
 

You Are Not Broken, OK?

So stop wearing your trauma like some badge of honour, stop making it your identity! Because while the wound may not be your fault, the healing is your responsibility. Gabor Mate explains it beautifully that the real trauma is not what happened to you, it’s what happened INSIDE you, it’s the DISCONNECT from self…and so ONLY YOU can go within and hold space for all the pain + emotions that you’ve suppressed.

 

ONLY YOU CAN SET YOURSELF FREE!

 

Why Bother? Why Heal?

 

#1 Authenticity, Full Potential & Freedom…

You can’t live authentically, reach your full potential or experience real freedom if you hold on to your emotional wounds. Release them or they will continue to poison your body, mind & heart and shape the rest of your life without you even knowing.

 

#2 Considerably Extended Health & Life Span

If you are not healing it, you are storing it (in your body)… and this stuff can get really heavy! Unhealed trauma can shave off as many as 20 years from your life! Did that get your attention? This is because living in a constant state of fight, flight or freeze, (particularly in childhood), makes you more prone to disease.

 

#3  Creating Space For Joy & Unconditional Love

You are not healing to handle the pain, the mental + emotional chaos, you’ve lived with it your entire life. You are healing to welcome in the joy & unconditional love. You’ve mastered survival mode, now it is time to live!

 

 

 

No-One Is Coming To Save You… Or Are They?

These powerful words were a gamechanger for me because I spent YEARS (OK, decades) waiting! Waiting for someone (anyone) to come + save me, to make me feel safe, beautiful, worthy, loved… not realising that the ONLY PERSON that could ever do that was staring right back at me in the MIRROR. Then, one day, it finally hit me that everything I had been searching for externally, DOES NOT EXIST outside of me… and that I have to cultivate it within. That’s when I finally took matters into my own hands.

 

It was at the rock bottom, in the darkest of places that my inner rebel said: ‘This is NOT HOW THE f*****g STORY ENDS’! She refused to settle and give up on herself, leaving me no choice but to take charge and become my own Hero & Healer… and the rest is history!  So, when coaches and influencers say that no-one is coming to save you, it’s not strictly true. Someone is!

 

It’s The Healed Version Of You That’s Coming To Save You + Bring You Back Home

BUT that doesn’t happen by accident… it has to be a conscious choice! YOUR CHOICE. It all starts with YOU… and what I call the ‘sacred work’, which carries the promise to shift your entire world and the way you experience life.

 

The Sacred Work: Awakening The Hero + Healer Within

Surprisingly, the kind of healing I needed had nothing to do with food! For the 1^st time ever, I had to consciously choose myself, go within and sit with everything I spent a lifetime avoiding… and FACE IT all head on.  

 

What a wild ride that was! And make no mistake, it wasn’t easy! It involved a lot of letting go. I had to let go of my old programming, my old identity, my old story and with it the old me that had protected me my entire life. I had to unravel multiple layers within me and heal emotional wounds so deep that I didn’t realise were still subconsciously running my life. Not an easy task when all you know is survival, and when all you crave is certainty in the never-ending search for safety, for home, for love. 

 

It was during the ‘sacred work’, that I reclaimed my power, stepped into my authenticity and decided to re-write my story from the inside out. Some call it ‘Ego Death’, others ‘Death & Rebirth’. I call it ALCHEMY.

 

What About You & Your Pain?

Which category do you fall into?

 

#1 You’ve spent years supressing the pain deep inside you… scared to face it, never asking for help

 

#2 You say you are OK, and think what happened is way in the past and no longer has a hold on you…  when in reality you’re simply isolating yourself from anything that could trigger you

 

#3 You have had the courage to ask for help, dabbled with ‘this + that’ approach YET never reached the wholly grail of emotional freedom, peace within, authenticity and joy

 

Something For You To Consider.

 

You Can’t Talk, Affirm Or Chant Your Way Out Of Unresolved Trauma
Therapy, mindset work and meditation are all wonderful but NOT ENOUGH to override a dysregulated nervous system. So, if you have exhausted all the cognitive approaches to healing, having sat in therapist’s office for years, it’s time to go deeper.

 

What you need is body-based healing because every single experience you had was IMPRINTED onto your nervous system. When painful childhood experiences become your familiar place, your brain & body deem the familiar ‘safe’ even though the adrenalin hits are making you sick. Did you know that your body gets chemically addicted to these emotions? It will always choose a familiar hell over an unfamiliar heaven.

 

This is exactly where inner INNER CHILD healing comes in and this work is ‘sacred’ because your inner child is closest to your true essence (authenticity)… and therefore your freedom. There is no greater purpose in life other than to REMEMBER who you are and what you are capable of. So, tune in, dig deep, it’s all there. People spend years in therapy and meditation but nothing changes because they don’t go to the pain points. You have to…

 

FEEL IT TO HEAL IT

 

There Is No Way Round… The Only Way Is Through!

Your trauma is stored in your body and if you continue to supress your emotions, you will start a WAR inside you! Look. You can’t go back and change the beginning but you can start where you are create a brand new ending. So… IF you are still reading, know this:

 

You Are The One. The Chosen One…

You are the one that breaks the cycle of trauma, pain, despair or abuse. In every family, in every era… there are people that are supposed to rise up and say you know what… I’m going to change the path of my generation, I’m the one to heal and forever break the cycle.

 

If that’s you, DECIDE that from now on you are going TO FEEL what’s asking to be felt… UNTIL there is no more resistance, only freedom... peace… joy… and love. And remember:

 

YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

 

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 Love, Alena x